The Narcissist Slayer Blog Award Nominations

By Kim Saeed | Narcissism

Dec 13

Thanks to my friend, Ursula, I was inspired to create the Narcissist Slayer blog award.

Narcissists need no introduction.  Once they’ve touched your life, you are changed forever.  They literally strip you down to your deepest insecurities and slam-dunk you into misery and self-loathing; while they skip down a yellow brick road into the forest with Bambi.

In Ursula’s words:

“A relationship with a Narcissist always feels like a quest. You’re recruited as a hero to save them from dragons of one sort or another. They have so many dramas and stories of dramas. They are male and female damsels in permanent distress. It feels good at first to be seen as a hero on a quest to save such a damsel, it makes love mythical in proportions, you’re a dragon slayer, but at some point you’re going to become the dragon from whom they need saving. They are always the victim in distress and never see themselves as the victimizer. Once you were a hero to them and now they’ve turned you with a wave of their wand of endless illusion into the villain. You are a dragon villain who now realizes that the real dragon villain is the damsel (male or female) who has never been in distress at all, but causes an awful lot of it for others, especially those who try and save them. You can never save them.”

There are many warriors here on WordPress who dedicate their time to creating awareness of these evil spawn.  It is my pleasure to nominate the following bloggers for their dedication and time spent on the battlefield:

An Upturned Soul

Phoenix Rising

Psychopath Resistance

Running Away From a Narcissist

Human Rights vs. Stalkers

The Mirror     – You’ll receive the male version of the badge 🙂

Narc Raiders

Ladywithatruck’s Blog

Elisse Stuart

Paula’s Pontifications

Avalanche of the Soul

“Whatever you are physically…male or female, strong or weak, ill or healthy–all those things matter less than what your heart contains. If you have the soul of a warrior, you are a warrior. All those other things, they are the glass that contains the lamp, but you are the light inside.”
~ Cassandra Clare

The rules for this award are:

1. Thank the person who nominated you and link back to them.

2. Put the award’s logo on your blog.

3. Write a blog post and share the blog(s) you have chosen- there are no minimum or maximum number of blogs required.

4.  Inform your nominees on their site.

5.  Share one positive thing that you took away from your relationship with a Narcissist.

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susanbotchie May 1, 2014

Thank you for the blog list. Saved your website to favorites, in order to read through and add to links section of blog.


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Kev January 10, 2014

Congrats on your reward! I really enjoy your blog, but don’t read it as much as I’d like to Kim. I’ll have to start dedicating a bit more time to it as I can. There is so much on here that I’m sure will be helpful to me.

    Kim Saeed January 10, 2014

    Why, thank you, Kev 🙂 I actually created this particular award after some inspiration from a friend-blogger, Ursula at “An Upturned Soul”. I am happy to see how it’s been warmly embraced and spreading across WordPress to some very deserving souls.

    I have seen your posts about the various books you are publishing. You are certainly on a roll and I’m very happy for you.

    I wish I could say I knew more about being the child of a Narcissistic parent or guardian, but my experience and knowledge lies mostly in romantic relationships. I may make it a goal this year to learn more about Narc parents…however, I still hope that you might glean some helpful info from my site, when you have the time to browse 🙂 Thanks for stopping by and I wish you continued success.!

      Kev January 10, 2014

      Thanks Kim.


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Ixchel December 30, 2013

Thank you very much for the nomination!

    Kim Saeed December 30, 2013

    You are very welcome! You have a lot of great posts that would be beneficial to those who have filled the shoes we’ve left behind 🙂

anupturnedsoul December 30, 2013

Reblogged this on An Upturned Soul and commented:
I did thank Kim for this most excellent award nomination, but I haven’t gotten around to passing it on yet… and it may be a while before I do. So I thought I would share her nominations with you as they offer much needed information, and inspiring passion for those dealing with a relationship with a Narcissist and other types of abusers.

You are your own best weapon against those who try to and do harm you, and the more knowledge you gather from others who have similar experiences, the more powerful you are, because their words and wisdom awakens your own inner words and wisdom. Break your silence and break free! Roar from your heart and let that roar echo loudly and proudly!

    Kim Saeed January 19, 2014

    Ursula, I’m following up on a comment you made (in response to one of mine) in which you inquired about my idea of compatibility. I haven’t forgotten. I’ve spent some time thinking about it.

    I think my challenge is that I compare my partners with an ideal that’s very hard to achieve. I’ve only met one person in my life with whom I was very compatible. He is almost twenty years my senior, and unfortunately, our circumstances where such that we couldn’t be together. He is now living in Florida and is the pastor of a church, along with being a college advisor.

    So…Sitting for hours without saying a word, yet completely understanding one another; being entirely comfortable with oneself without feeling judged; sharing a connection that cannot be articulated; being self-actualized around that person…

    I could go on a while, but it all comes back to the same concept. With this person, I felt we were intellectual equals, though he had a lot more worldly experience than I. We wrote each other poems, kept journals for one another when we’d travel, bought unique and meaningful gifts for one another…we even wore matching rings, though we could never marry.

    I cannot forget the experience. As an INFJ, this is the type of relationship I live for, but I haven’t been able to find it in another person. Most men end up in my eyes as being immature, controlling, insecure, limited in their abilities, and dare I say it…not as intelligent as I’d like. I don’t say that to be arrogant…it’s just that most men aren’t capable of the depth of emotion I know can exist between two people…and I believe that comes with a certain level of intelligence; emotional and otherwise.

    Anyhow, I am at fault, too, because though I wish to be loved unconditionally, I am not able to give that when I find myself feeling disappointed.

    So there you have it.

    I’m glad that you seem to have a very compatible partner. It’s a rarity, indeed.



bettylaluna December 17, 2013

Thank you so very much for the honor of your nomination. I will be sure to follow your instructions on the proper protocol for acceptance first thing when I log on later today. On a fluke I came in to check on the blog, having a bit of insomnia and it’s 4:15 am! I am so very touched to not only be recognized but to be in the company of such fine bloggers on this very specialized subject matter. Thank you so very much, and congrats to everyone who has also been awarded! Additionally, it is my hope everyone is enjoying the holiday season. Best wishes, all the best and be blessed!


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anupturnedsoul December 15, 2013

When my internet finally allows me to load this page entirely instead of just bits of it while endlessly loading I’d ‘Like’ to ‘Love’ this please. (note to self don’t grumble about your internet connection in comments – subnote to self: censored stuff!).

Thank you, you awesome Narcissist Slayer, and please look at and be aware of how your extraordinary gift is impacting others and let that inspire you further in your quest. You have a wonderful gift, that curse has been truly owned and pawned (yup I used that internet term).

elissestuart December 14, 2013

Thank you so much for the honor. As they say at the Oscars it means so much to even be nominated. I will write a post tonight. I am sure you will be most amused when you hear the positive thing I took away from the relatioNship with the N.
All the best to you,
Elisse Stuart

Paula December 14, 2013

Thank you so much for the nomination. I am thrilled to accept it and will be writing my post this weekend to honor the honor.

(Coincidentally, a couple of days ago before you nominated me, my 8-year-old son was browsing the internet for dragon rings for women. He said he thought I would like one and that he had $20 in his wallet and might be able to afford one. It was especially odd because I am not generally into dragons and daggers. I do yoga and read true crime in my spare time. Hehe!)

I love Ursula’s analogy; we definitely go from being the hero to being the dragon. And it happens so quickly. We don’t even know what hit is until we look back and put the pieces together, which is what my writing and blog started as being–just a place to figure the shit out. Amazingly, my blog became much more than that, and I find myself with friends i never would have discovered without having gone through the hell I experienced.

Thank you, again, Kim. Peace!

    Kim Saeed December 14, 2013

    Paula, you are most welcome. I referred to your blog many times when I first started learning about Narcissism and its detrimental effects on the people involved. You are a truly beacon and I wish you continued success!

    (I don’t have cable anymore, but I’ve gotten rather addicted to “Bones” through Netflix. In fact, we just watched the last episode of season 8 last night and are now having withdrawal symptoms…must find a way to watch season 9). 🙂

navigator1965 December 13, 2013


Thank you. I was going to have to decline on ethical grounds, as my backside doesn’t look nearly as good in spandex pants as is portrayed in the award graphic. I wouldn’t want to be accused of false advertising.

Then I saw your comment about a male version, and I was good to go. };-)>

Nav the narc slayer. Has a nice ring to it.

    Kim Saeed December 13, 2013

    Indeed it does 🙂 I’ll get him ready, perhaps this weekend or soon after, so you can display your male badge with pride.

    Besides, maybe you’ll have some like comrades who will join you soon 🙂

      navigator1965 December 13, 2013

      With some luck, yes. I’ll try to make time to visit my co-slayers blogs in the near future.


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