If your Narcissist has left you, you’re actually quite lucky. I know it doesn’t seem that way now because you are probably addicted to him, and I don’t mean in a romantic, warm and fuzzy kind of way. You are addicted because of the peptides released during the crazy-making phases of the relationship, as well as the brainwashing you’ve endured since you met him.
To answer your question, “Will he ever come back?” It could go either way. If he doesn’t come back, it means he has secured another acceptable source of supply and you’ve been discarded. To them, we are nothing more than a resource…a tissue, a cup of coffee, a sitcom on television. We are only in their life for the convenience we offer and as a receptacle for all of their problems and faults..
It’s also possible that although he has secured another source of supply, he will keep you in the shadows as a back-up. In other words, you could become “the Other Woman”. Narcissists get bored very easily. And while his new supply might be grand, nothing strokes his ego more than proving to himself that he can still have his way with you. He is aware of all the sacrifices you made, the number of times you forgave him, and how you suffered under his hand. Yet, here you are…taking him back without a second thought, proving that he is King. I know because I was once that woman who took my Ex back over and over…don’t be “That Woman”. Think of it from his point of view…he has two women (possibly more) who are trained to follow his every command. It feeds his God complex.
If your relationship has reached the point where he’s left you, the best thing you can do for yourself is put up the barricades and go into full lock-down mode. Think of yourself as G.I. Jane in DEFCON level 3. Yeah, it’s that serious. If you’re not convinced, just go to any random forum on the internet regarding relationships with a Narcissist and see if you can find ONE happy ending.
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