Feeling Trapped? No Phone? Hope is Here…

By Kim Saeed | Narcissism

Dec 30
  • Are you being held in your own home like a prisoner, with little contact with the outside world?
  • Does your partner withhold access to a phone as a form of punishment or to force you to comply?
  • Did your abusive partner destroy your phone and you’re not able to replace it?
  • Have you been put into compromising situations because the phone you DID have was spied on, which resulted in crippling verbal or physical attacks?

With HopeLine from Verizon, you can take your power back.  If you are in an abusive relationship, HopeLine is available to keep you connected to vital resources.

Many victims of domestic and narcissistic abuse report that their partner cuts off their access to a cell phone, thereby rendering them helpless.  Since abusers often insist that their victim not work outside the home, the victim becomes dependent upon them for everything, including common conveniences such as a cell phone.  This is all about power and control.

There is nothing worse than feeling you have no avenue for escape or being stuck in a situation where you need to call for help, but cannot because your abuser took that option away from you. The HopeLine program collects donated phones from across the nation, then refurbishes and distributes them to domestic violence survivors in need.

Don’t forget that emotional abuse is domestic abuse.  Even if your partner hasn’t hit you yet, emotional abuse often escalates into physical abuse.  If you are being manipulated, degraded, humiliated, and controlled, you are in an abusive relationship.

Here are some success stories from recipients of a HopeLine phone:

  • A domestic violence victim who lived alone had an ex-boyfriend who broke in and ripped her landline phone out of the wall. She was not able to replace it, but was given a HopeLine phone, which she slept with under her pillow. The next time he broke in, she was able to call the police with the HopeLine phone and he was arrested.
  • A domestic violence victim with Parkinson’s disease who is homebound and the mother of two small boys used a HopeLine phone as a “lifeline” to stay in touch with her doctor, attorney and children’s school.
  • A domestic violence victim with an abusive husband who listened in on her calls and installed hidden cameras in their home was able to escape to safety by planning an escape plan with the help of Safe Haven and a HopeLine phone.
  • A domestic violence victim went through a divorce, lost everything, including her phone. She was given a HopeLine phone and was able to secure a job as a home health aide. One night she was driving home from work when her car broke down in the middle of nowhere. She used her HopeLine phone to call for help.

Please share this on your Facebook page.  You never know when someone could be in need!

** I am not being compensated for this article.

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bettylaluna December 30, 2013

aaah, it finally ‘loaded’…

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bettylaluna December 30, 2013

Kimbery,
I cannot leave a “like” because it is on contnual ‘loadling’ loop; however thank you so much for sharing this. I also write (without pay) for another local publication on DV and this month my mind is just drawing a blank. The tone has to be a little bit different because it’s supposed to be more informational rather than sharing ‘all about me’ and as you know, once you cover certain basics it gets a little harder to come up with something to say. At least for me. Again, when viewing it via the personal lens I find narrative writing easier but when it comes to a ‘general public’ kind of thing it just feels different I am not as ‘confident’ in my abilities, so thank you on two fronts because I can research this more and have an article in I was so blocked I was stuck. If we don’t connect soon, I wish you a Very Happy New Year. I love your blog.

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    Kim Saeed January 3, 2014

    Betty,

    It’s really encouraging to know I helped you. Writing is harder than one would think. It’s odd, because some days I also struggle with what to write, and other days I sit down and write a 1000-word post as if by magic.

    I admit that I sometimes have to take a day or two off because some of my research and writing takes me back to a negative-energy level via triggering and C-PTSD. I really want to start focusing on not only helping people understand Narcs, but help them with No Contact, leaving the abusive relationship, and dealing with the emotional turmoil when they get out on their own…

    I wish you a blessed 2014 and I also love your blog. It was one of the ones I came across last summer while researching NPD. Other people love it, too, and thanked me for nominating you because they didn’t know about you before. I hope we stay in touch…hey, do you still do radio interviews?

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      bettylaluna January 3, 2014

      I understand completely what you mean. For me writing was an integral part of my ‘process’ a means of getting it out. I’m at a place now where I am consciously choosing not to revisit. If the level of awareness online was not as prevalent as it is today (three years ago it wasn’t as saturated) I might elect to continue on this path because it filled a ‘need’ but given that I feel better, and there are others out there and the information is pretty much the same, my conscious is clear that is it not really an ‘abandonment’ of someone who might need help, there are resources out there readily available. I’ve left the blogs up and I do make it known if anyone ever needs to talk or wants clarification by all means I would most certainly help, but for my own personal growth, I did not want to make this a ‘life’ calling as like you shared, it is a revisiting of old wounds once you’ve moved forward and for me I did not think that was the best route to go. Like you, I am creative so I always feel the need for some outlet; however, I am attempting now to travel along the ‘creative’ path…not for any major monetary gain, I can’t even draw a line with a ruler, but there are many outlets for creativity and so that is my newest endeavor. As per radio, funny you asked as I majored in communications (Radio/TV/Film/Journalism) and I do intend to do more with Radio, but this whole endeavor is going to be quite the process. Nonetheless, it was hard finding people for the show at the time, I have wanted to dive into Radio again only because it was an early love but dead air is like a major NO-NO and it seemed a bit eccentric to talk to a wall for a 1/2 straight, so the one show I did on my radio blog was it, then I was interviewed twice and I hung it up; however, I do intend to get back into Radio just to sharpen my skills again…so if you’re asking – I’d love to!…Let’s talk. Shoot me an email at: bettylaluna@hotmail.com and let’s see what we can come up with. I’ll interview you…Finally…I wish you a very Happy New Year Kim – thank you so much for the nomination and spreading the word, but more than that…thank you for the work you do…the very FINE work you do and for keeping all of it in perspective. You are providing an exceptional service and are definitely creating some good Karma there!
      Hugs,
      Betty

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        Kim Saeed January 7, 2014

        Sending you an email soon, Betty…be on the lookout 🙂

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          bettylaluna January 8, 2014

          Will do!

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          bettylaluna January 10, 2014

          Okay!

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          Kim Saeed January 10, 2014

          Hi Betty 🙂 I just sent the email…we must be on some sort of mental continuum!

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          bettylaluna January 10, 2014

          LOL! I’ll check it out in a bit Kim, it’s fun and games around here but I will get back to you shortly. Hope you are having a good day.

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