When we discover our partner is a Narcissist, we spend days, weeks, and even months learning everything we can about the disorder. Educating ourselves is important because only through learning about Narcissistic behaviors and what drives them are we able to release the responsibility we felt for the relationship’s end.
What we usually don’t consider, however, is that our mind consists of the conscious and unconscious. When we educate ourselves about Narcissism, we are using our conscious (cognitive) mind to make connections between our experiences and what we’ve learned. However, a cognitive understanding of Narcissism does little to heal us subconsciously.
Meditation is one of the most vital elements to emotional healing from Narcissistic abuse. It helps to cultivate more peace and happiness in life, and is the first thing I recommend to all my followers and clients. It’s essential to building our self-esteem back up, embracing our intuition, learning self-love, and letting go.
How Meditation Works
The first element of guided meditation involves different categories of brainwaves (binaural beats) as follows:
1) Gamma (30-100 Hz) – Learning and retaining information.
2) Beta (13-30 Hz) – Alertness; Concentration; Cognition.
3) Alpha (9-13 Hz) – This is the state where the brain starts to slow down/is relaxed. The right and left hemispheres of the brain are more balanced than during any other state. We feel calm and peaceful. Visualization; Creativity.
4) Theta (4-8 Hz) – The state of very deep relaxation; it is used in hypnosis and is characterized by feelings of inspiration and spirituality. Meditation; Intuition; Memory. Theta plays an important role in subconscious healing and is used in the treatment of different kinds of addiction. It is also the state for re-programming your mind.
5) Delta (1-3 Hz) – The slowest of all the frequencies. Can trigger the release of Human Growth Hormone that is so beneficial for healing and regeneration. Detached awareness; Healing; Sleep.
**Do not attempt to listen to Theta or Delta meditations while driving.
Scientists have discovered that certain brain wave frequencies (especially the Alpha and Theta) may:
1. Relieve stress and promote a lasting and substantial reduction in people prone to anxiety states.
2. Facilitate a deep physical relaxation and mental clarity.
3. Encourage spontaneous imaginative and creative thinking.
6. Reduce pain, promote euphoria and stimulate the release of endorphins.
Some people find the sound of pure sine waves unpleasant. To get around this, some binaural beats are “padded out” with gentle nature sounds. Brain Sync offers excellent healing meditations, many of which are led by the popular Kelly Howell. Click here to visit their website and find meditations suited for your individual journey of personal growth.
Most of us spend our days surrounded by the sounds of vehicles, televisions, and office machines. Nature sound recordings can offer us an escape from these unnatural sounds, and allow us to reconnect with nature. Popular sounds used in ambient recordings are: ocean waves, creeks, waterfalls, wind, rain, thunder, and birds. What we listen to can have a strong influence on our emotional health. Through experimentation, you can discover the effects each of these sounds have on your moods and emotions.
Native American Flute Music
Aside from the magical benefits of binaural beats and ambient sounds, I personally receive great comfort from listening to Native American Flute music. This may have something to do with the deep Cherokee bloodline on my mother’s side. Either way, I can listen to this music for hours.
I’ve also learned that this particular flute music is being used in Chakra balancing therapy.
Regardless of which guided meditation venue you choose, it’s critical that you begin now and practice daily for at least 10-20 minutes. While you may not acknowledge the benefits right away, meditation works magically behind the scenes to heal your inner wounds. Further, guided meditation can heal physical symptoms in the body if practiced regularly. You can also listen to beta and alpha meditations through your headphones while working at your laptop or computer.
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