Recovery from narcissistic and emotional abuse is an investment. It takes repeated, conscious effort (and often, money) over the long term. There isn’t a magical phrase or one-time action that will help one heal from Narcissistic abuse. If our bodies are out of shape, we need to exercise at least three to four days a week in order to get fit. The same concept applies to getting our traumatized spirits and souls “into shape”.
When we first learn that we’ve been the target of an emotional predator, such as a Narcissist or Sociopath, we spend a lot of time reading and educating ourselves about the manipulative dynamics of disordered personalities. This is helpful because it helps us to understand why our abuser did and said the things they did, as well as realize that nothing they said about us was really true.
However, as much as I encourage the need for educating oneself by reading about NPD and other personality disorders, there comes a time when such research should cease and, instead, turn one’s attention to recovery methods that are mandatory to enhance and enable the healing process.
But before I go into those, let me explain why reading alone does not heal us from Narcissistic abuse.
When we read, watch television, or interact with other people, we do so using our conscious minds. But did you know that some neuroscientists estimate that as much as 98 percent or more of all brain activity is completely unconscious? What that means to us is that most of our decisions and thought processes are performed with our subconscious mind, and out of our conscious awareness. So, when we learn about personality disorders, we cognitively understand what happened to us, but it doesn’t fully address the subconscious mind where stored or forgotten memories and suppressed emotions reside. Enter aromatherapy and guided meditations.
In order to access and release emotional trauma, we must stimulate the amygdala. One way to do this is through the sense of smell. In other words, the emotional part of our brains don’t respond to information obtained through reading, talking, or watching TV or videos. Our sense of smell is directly related to emotions that have been stored, often as far back as childhood.
Smell is the only one of our five senses that is directly linked to the lobe of the brain that houses our emotions. Along with all positive emotions, negative emotions such as fear, anger, depression, and anxiety originate from this area. This explains why the scent of an apple pie baking might remind us of Thanksgiving at our Grandmother’s house, resulting in feelings of nostalgia and comfort. It’s also why certain smells can trigger deeply buried fears and trauma, such as those experienced with PTSD or C-PTSD.
Essential oils allow us to access these buried emotions and memories so that we can accept and release them. Emotions are energy moving within our bodies, which work at a faster speed than our thoughts. Words in a book, as well as pictures, can take a few minutes to process, whereas a smell can evoke a memory in mere milliseconds.
Suppressed emotions and memories can lead to anxiety, panic attacks, and depression. Essential oils can help us surface and release these negative emotions from wherever they are stored in our cells or energy field. They are especially effective when used in conjunction with other healing modalities such as energy healing and massage therapy.
If we were abused, neglected, or unloved during childhood or within an emotionally abusive relationship, over time our subconscious accepts these events as truth about who we are. Worse, we often carry around these feelings of unworthiness without understanding why. This manifests in the form of low self-esteem, codependency, depression, and other lower states of consciousness.
In order to lessen or eliminate these unconscious beliefs and feelings of low self-worth, we have to “retrain our brain”. Just as it took a while for us to accept lies as truth, it will take time for us to reverse this process. Guided meditations are an effective and easy way to do this.
I recommend the use of guided meditations at any time of day, but especially at bedtime. This not only relaxes and prepares you for a good night’s sleep; the meditation will still benefit you even if you fall asleep.
Choosing which meditations you prefer are a matter of personal choice. I personally enjoy both guided meditations and binaural beats, depending on what I’m trying to achieve. Some people are sensitive to binaurals, so you’ll want to test them out first to see if they’re a good fit for you. Meditations are not only beneficial for healing the psyche, but also for repairing DNA, manifesting, and realigning the Chakras.
**Standard Disclaimer: The content provided is designed to support, not replace, medical or psychiatric treatment. If you believe you may have a condition, please seek qualified professional care.
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