Dear Kim – How Would a Dumped Narcissist Feel if You Were to Date His Friend?

By Kim Saeed | Maintaining No Contact

Apr 29
Q&A Tuesday

Surely you ask this in jest.  Are you searching for a reason to leave the continent?  If not, then allow me to paint a clear picture.

This is dangerous territory.  My first thought is that it would be the equivalent of skipping into Dante’s eighth circle of hell.  My second thought…are you considering it because you really like this other guy or because you want revenge?

Third…the world as you know it would end as you endured the smear campaign from Hell.  I wrote about a Narcissist’s typical smear campaign, which would seem like a walk in the park compared to the one you’d be lambasted with if you dated his friend.  I’d be surprised if you weren’t hunted down by Homeland Security and deported to a remote country that’s not even on the map.

The Narcissist would let on that he didn’t have a care in the world that you’re dating his “friend”, but behind the scenes, your whole identity, friendships, career, and familial ties would be in danger.  Even your pet Iguana.  If you care about those you love, don’t bring the wrath of Satan upon them.  No one would be off limits as the Narcissist systematically destroyed you and those you love.  It’s a lot like having a mob hit out on you.  Ironically, moving to Kiev would start to seem like a good idea.

If you enjoy having a job, your friendships, and neighbors that smile and wave instead of slicing your car tires, I wouldn’t even go there.  Besides, there’s always a chance that his “friend” could very well be one of the Narc’s flying monkeys.

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© Kim Saeed and Let Me Reach, 2016


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