A Matter of Love…or Cake?

By Kim Saeed | Contemplating No Contact

Oct 09
Signs a Narcissist is Cheating

I hear it all the time…

My Narcissist broke up with me two months (or two years) ago, but even though he/she has a new partner, they want to stay friends and see me on the down low”.

Yes, the Narcissist continues to see their break-up partner…in intimate ways.  Very, very intimate ways.  All under the guise of, “I know I have a new girlfriend/boyfriend/fiance/spouse, but I still love you”, or “Hey, let’s be friends”, or the all-time classic “Everybody cheats”.

This is really nothing more than a lame trick where the Narcissist paves the way for…

A renewed relationship?  No.

Second chances?  No.

Rekindling the love?  No.

The true answer?  “Friends” with benefits…with you, her, him, and them, ergo a lot of cake-eating.

Seriously, do any of your other friends tell you how worthless you are?  That no one would touch you with a ten-foot pole? Continuously cheat on you?  

Would your friends take advantage of you financially or try their best to make you feel like dirt under their shoe…then take a big bite of cake, pretending that nothing dubious is going on?

No, that’s not what friends do.  Therefore, the process of elimination should establish that the Narcissist is not your friend.

They just really like cake.  All kinds of cake.  The best thing you can do?  Stop supplying cake…

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[…] Go No Contact.  If you share children, start planning your escape and visit a divorce attorney.  And whatever you do, don’t agree to remain “friends”.  That’s Narc-speak for keeping you in his queue of bedroom buddies. […]

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Linda October 10, 2014

how do you use this wheel? do I have to buy it?

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1smiles October 9, 2014

Excellent post!

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    Kim Saeed October 10, 2014

    Thank you 🙂

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Tothineownselfbetrue October 9, 2014

Question…I hear over and over how they keep trying to contact. My ex N never does. He sent all the wedding pictures and any picture I was in from our 24 year marriage. So it causes me to wonder – why does he not contact me or try instead it’s as if I died. Anyone?

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    Only Me October 9, 2014

    You have experienced the “extreme discard”. The intention behind it is to make you feel utterly worthless! – like you are too worthless to even acknowledge your existence! It happened to me, so I know! It’s a backhanded compliment in a way and I’d take it as a sign of respect! You are of no further use to him now – maybe you see him for what he is, whatever the reason, you are now free to heal and find a healthy relationship where you are not treated so shabbily! Big hugs to you!

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Susan October 9, 2014

Please remove me. I cannot get out from word press. This is causing problems. I have tried over 10 times to get out.

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