Narcissistic Abuse, Recovery, and the Importance of Right Healing

By Kim Saeed | Contemplating No Contact

Nov 14

Experts say it takes more time to recover from a breakup with a narcissist (be that a friendship, colleague, family member, partner, or spouse) because you have to grieve twice. You grieve first for the person the narcissist pretended to be (your most loyal friend, soulmate, perfect boss) and then you grieve yet again about the horror of who they actually are: your worst nightmare.

Exactly like drug addiction you are high from the intensity during the initial stages of the relationship. You spend the rest of the entire relationship wanting to get back to that initial high that never comes. Being in a relationship with a narcissist is akin to being addicted to heroin. It will slowly kill you. The longer you stay with a narcissist and endure intermittent cycles of abuse, followed by “loving” treatment, you become MORE attached through a process known as trauma bonding.


I am honored that Kristin Sunanta Walker, CEO of everythingEHR invited me to be a guest on Mental Health News Radio, along with her co-host,  Melanie Vann.  Join us as we go in depth about what these relationships are like, why it is imperative to cut off all contact for good, and how important your healing process is so you can recover.

Life truly does begin after No Contact.



Please read the full blog article here.

Some of the topics of discussion are:

What if he/she isn’t a narcissist and I’m giving up too soon?

What if I’m the narcissist?

Is there a possibility the Narcissist can change?

I’ve been in therapy for years, but I still don’t seem to be healing.

Is this my fault?

It feels like no one is interested in me. Maybe the narcissist was right about me.

How important is it to learn how to modulate/regulate emotions in the first step in healing?

How is the term ‘grey rock’ helpful and why it should only be used in cases of shared custody/shared employer.

Kristin Sunanta Walker is the CEO of a behavioral health consulting practice everythingEHR and host of Mental Health News Radio. She advocates on behalf of behavioral and women’s healthcare providers and the organizations and vendors who provide services to these populations. She shares what she learns through conference presentations, blog articles and as part of her consulting work.

*Examples given regarding Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Psychopathy, or Sociopathology may be related to the guest or host’s experiences over vast interactions in their field. An amalgamation of experiences may be described but may not represent any specific entity. Should any listeners resonate with the information discussed or written, a list of licensed professionals will be made available upon request. 


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Rosemary December 11, 2015

Could you provide me the name of a licensed professional as stated above.. for Narcessistic abuse and trauma.. I live in Phoenix Arizona. Thank you

    Kim Saeed December 11, 2015

    Hi Rosemary! I don’t have any acquaintances in Arizona, but you might want to reach out to my friends at everythingEHR. They might be able to recommend someone. Here is their site:

lynettedavis November 15, 2015

Reblogged this on Memoir Notes.

    Kim Saeed November 16, 2015

    Thank you for the re-blog, Lynette! 🙂


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Kristin Walker November 14, 2015

Thank you Kim for joining us on the show. And for being such an advocate and healer.

    Kim Saeed November 14, 2015

    Thank YOU for all you, as well. I truly enjoyed being on your show, Kristin. It was an honor and I hope we will work together again in the near future.

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