*Warning* – Do not read this article if you are faint of heart regarding topics of a sexual nature
I almost didn’t write this article…mainly because I didn’t want to give any ideas to the followers I have who are themselves narcissists…who follow my blog because they discovered their partner does, and so they monitor my site in an attempt to stay ahead of the game.
But, I decided I’d be doing more good than harm by informing all of my followers about the latest narcissistic craze.
Now, I’m not saying that every person who attends this event is a narcissist, because there is a cultural and spiritual element to it…many lives have been changed because of Burning Man.
But, culture and spirituality are not what your sneaky partner is seeking when he or she buys their ticket.
Unless you are into open relationships and the likelihood of your partner having sex with multiple people while attending this event, you may be scarred for life. It’s definitely not something Empathic, Introverted HSPs can take lightly.
Seriously, if you’re at all sensitive or have high standards around monogamy and your partner has mentioned this event to you – even casually – you should seriously consider that there may be a critical compatibility issue in the relationship which will result in your being traumatized.
Burning Man apparently promotes academics and being green. Their mission statement is:
And that’s precisely what the festival represents for most people who attend.
But, there’s a different element to the event that’s not fully described on the site. While there is mention of sexual “adventure”, what they don’t really reveal is just how shocking the sexual aspect of the event can be.
Burning Man doesn’t coordinate the sexual activities available there, but allows shop owners to establish various “sex tents” on-site.
So, what ‘s the great attraction to Burning Man as it pertains to your narcissistic partner? I did some research on the subject since it’s become a recurring struggle among many of my coaching clients whose partners have been there or are making plans to attend.
I’ll give it to you straight–so you can compare notes in the event your partner may be planning to reserve their spot (or you discover their intentions without their telling you) – and it’s not because they want to check out the creative art.
The media images available on the internet make Burning Man appear as a modern-day Woodstock. Many describe it as a healing experience–which makes it unfortunate that so many of my clients have been traumatized by the event based on the reasons their toxic partners have gone there.
Following is a sampling of why the narcissist wants to go to Burning Man, which is held in the Black Rock Desert in Nevada:
…and these activities are vanilla in nature compared to other things I discovered that I can’t write about here.
This year’s festival will be held Aug 27, 2017 – Sep 4, 2017, in case your partner suddenly wants to go on a trip and “bond with the guys” or go “glamping” with her girlfriends.
This event might be kosher for individuals of an adventurous spirit, but it’s definitely not for the faint of heart. Many eager folks who considered themselves as being in open relationships – believing they’d be accepting of the whole Burning Man experience – ended up parting ways after attending.
I can definitely say after having worked with clients whose partners attended the festival, it was one of the most traumatic experiences for them in regards to the betrayal they endured.
For those of you who are in this predicament and are afraid that disagreeing with your partner’s going to Burning Man makes you an old-fashioned, close-minded prude, that’s simply not the case. All parties in relationships are entitled to deal-breakers.
It’s one thing to agree to your partner going on a week-long fishing trip with the bros, but another entirely to give them the green-light to attend Burning Man.
As for the school of thought that states, “we’re two separate entities that love and respect each other. All healthy relationships should be based on being two independent people choosing to come together and stay together out of friendship and love, not obligation.”—well, if you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, this mindset doesn’t apply given the nature of lies and concealment that narcissists engage in.
Narcissism aside, healthy relationship guidelines don’t include feeling obligated to allow your significant other to go into the middle of the desert with naked people. Where drugs, an all-inclusive menu of sexual choices, and willing playmates are available around every corner.
If you’re not okay with it, you have the right to say so. Allow the other person to make their decision, and if they choose to go after knowing how upsetting it would be to you, then you have the right to end the relationship.
You wouldn’t need to present this as an ultimatum. Simply pack your things while they’re gone and hit the road…
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