Category Archives for "Discovering Your Partner is a Narcissist"

Oct 06

LMR Q&A Tuesday – Could it be true? Is he really a narcissist?

By Kim Saeed | Contemplating No Contact , Discovering Your Partner is a Narcissist

Dear Kim, I’ve been with my partner almost two years now, and while looking up verbal abuse articles, I came across some very alarming links regarding Narcissism. Now, instead of believing I’ve simply been the target of verbal abuse, I think my partner is exhibiting traits of narcissism because he lies and cheats, too. I’ve […]

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Sep 23

Shady Shizzle from the Mouths of Narcissists (and Other Cheaters and Users)

By Kim Saeed | Contemplating No Contact , Discovering Your Partner is a Narcissist , Initiating No Contact , Maintaining No Contact

People who find themselves in confusing relationships with Narcissists and other users are often baffled by what their enigmatic partners really mean…wishing they could know what’s going on in said partner’s confounded mind once and for all. The reason it’s all so confusing is because most of what comes out of the narcissist’s mouth is lies.  Lies […]

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Aug 24

The Real Reason You Break No Contact (It’s Not What You Think)

By Kim Saeed | Break-Ups , Maintaining No Contact , Moving on after No Contact , Narcissistic Behaviors , No Contact , Surviving Narcissistic Abuse

The toughest ordeal in detaching from a toxic relationship with a Narcissist or other personality-disordered individual is implementing and maintaining No Contact (or Modified Contact in cases of shared custody). The word on the street is that, on average, it takes leaving a toxic partner seven times before finally leaving for good. From my experience […]

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Aug 07

Cognitive Dissonance Removal Strategies: Harmful vs. Healthy Ways

By Kim Saeed | Break-Ups , Empaths and Sensitives , Heal Your Heart & Mind , Narcissism , No Contact , Recovery from Co-Dependency , Surviving Narcissistic Abuse

Abusive relationships often reshape your entire belief system. If you are like most victims of narcissistic abuse, you experienced a distorted sense of reality throughout the majority of the relationship with your partner. When your partner’s alternating sweetness and rage suddenly defied everything you believed about him or her, you experienced an internal conflict known […]

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Jun 28

Ghosting – Silent Treatment or No Contact?

By Kim Saeed | Contemplating No Contact , Discovering Your Partner is a Narcissist , Initiating No Contact , Maintaining No Contact

You’ve probably heard by now that Charlize Theron pulled a big disappearing act on Sean Penn.  It’s all over the internet on sites such as US Magazine, The Huffington Post, and Jezebel.  The couple seemed to be the epitome of happiness in cozy beach photos, walking hand-in-hand on the red carpet, and getting engaged.  It […]

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Jun 23

5 Narcissistic Abuse Hacks – A Cheat Sheet for Decoding the Top Narcissistic Manipulations

By Kim Saeed | Narcissism , Narcissistic Behaviors , Narcissists and Sex , Surviving Narcissistic Abuse , The Red Flags of Narcissism

How many times have you engaged in frustrating arguments with your toxic partner, only to come to self-defeating “compromises” in which they made you feel utterly responsible for their relationship crimes (and possibly had you apologizing for their errors)? Have you forgiven your narcissistic partner a ridiculous number of times for lying, cheating, watching porn, and […]

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Jun 17

"He’s Not All Bad" and Other Dangerous Fallacies

By Kim Saeed | Narcissism , Narcissistic Behaviors , No Contact , PTSD/C-PTSD , Surviving Narcissistic Abuse , The Red Flags of Narcissism

It’s hard to admit, but… You’ve been lying to yourself about your partner. There’s an ever-widening gap between the person you want him to be and the person he really is.  You have an idea of what constitutes a healthy relationship, yet you forgive your partner when he commits serious relationship grievances because, after all, […]

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Jun 13

When You Should Consider Breaking Your Promises

By Kim Saeed | Contemplating No Contact , Discovering Your Partner is a Narcissist , Initiating No Contact , Maintaining No Contact

I’m not referring to the promises you make to your parents or your friends. And you should certainly keep the promises you’ve made to your children. However, there are times when you should consider breaking the promises you made when you married a lying, manipulative cheater. There are many reasons why women and men stay […]

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Jun 01

The Great “Narcissist Loves New Woman More” Hoax

By Kim Saeed | Contemplating No Contact , Discovering Your Partner is a Narcissist , Initiating No Contact

Of the many fears that victims of the Narcissist face, the heart-wrenching concern that their disordered Ex will be better for the new woman is one of the worst. In spite of knowing that the Narcissist is a pathological liar, colossal cheater, all-star schmoozer, and soul-assassin, discarded victims are often 100% sure that their abuser has miraculously begun […]

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