Category Archives for "Maintaining No Contact"

Dec 12

Do You Recognize These Warning Signs of Pursuer-Distancer Relationship Patterns?

By Kim Saeed | Initiating No Contact , Maintaining No Contact , The Red Flags of Narcissism

Many relationships run into trouble because one partner seeks more closeness while the other seeks more distance. It’s a cycle that psychologists call a pursuer-distancer dynamic.  In spiritual communities, it’s referred to as the twin flame runner/chaser stage.  While this dynamic may play out in non-toxic relationships, it’s also one of the hallmark indicators of […]

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Oct 17

4 Examples of What a Genuine “I’m Sorry” Looks Like

By Kim Saeed | Contemplating No Contact , Initiating No Contact , Maintaining No Contact , Moving on after No Contact

Nothing is worse than an empty apology.  Except perhaps being in a relationship with someone whose apologies have become absurd…laughable, even.  You know what I mean, those fake apologies that either serve as a layer of spackle, enforce gaslighting, or are a haughty and blatant justification of someone’s wrongdoing.  It’s all surface-level hoopla that lacks […]

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Oct 06

How to Reverse Learned Helplessness after Narcissistic Abuse

By Kim Saeed | Initiating No Contact , Maintaining No Contact , Moving on after No Contact

It seems like more and more people are dealing with feelings of helplessness. Not only are more people struggling with these feelings, they’re dealing with them on incredibly intense levels.  Because these feelings are so powerful, many are turning to their doctors for drugs. Back in 2011, Time magazine reported that the use of antidepressants […]

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Sep 28

The Non-Narc’s Guide to “Cluster B” for Recovering Abuse Survivors

By Ven Baxter | Contemplating No Contact , Discovering Your Partner is a Narcissist , Initiating No Contact , Maintaining No Contact

~ by Ven Baxter The online Narcissistic Abuse Recovery community, as represented in social media groups, website message boards, personal blogs, and video comment threads, has a certain lingo that newcomers may need to learn in order to facilitate understanding and discussion.  I’ve found this especially true on certain message boards in Web-based support communities […]

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Sep 26

5 Things to Never Do After Breaking Up with a Narcissist

By Kim Saeed | Contemplating No Contact , Initiating No Contact , Maintaining No Contact

Breaking up with someone you’ve spent part of your life with is never easy, whether you agreed to the breakup or were heartlessly discarded out of the blue.   However, it’s what you do after the breakup which determines whether you will recover and move forward or stay hopelessly obsessed with your former partner.  There are […]

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Sep 25

7 Types of Pain Directly Linked to Your Emotions

By Kim Saeed | Contemplating No Contact , Initiating No Contact , Maintaining No Contact

When we feel emotionally balanced, our bodies reflect this positive feeling, too. Positive emotions such as contentment or satisfaction tell our brains to release positive chemicals such as serotonin or dopamine to make our bodies feel good.  Unfortunately, the opposite is also true. When we find ourselves in a less-than-positive emotional state, this mental anguish […]

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Sep 18

The Biggest Misconception about Narcissism

By Kim Saeed | Contemplating No Contact , Initiating No Contact , Maintaining No Contact

You’ve begun to suspect that your partner might be a narcissist.  So, you go to your computer and start doing numerous Google searches, entering terms such as “narcissism”, “emotional blackmail”, and “verbal abuse”.  You begin gradually (and perhaps also grudgingly) coming to the realization that your partner most likely is a narcissist and that the […]

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